What is wedding invitation wording etiquette and how important is it?
- Begin with – Reference to the host (who’s paying?)
- Bride and Groom names
- Ceremony date
- Ceremony time, venue
- Rsvp date, contact details
- Reception to follow
Additional details can be included on the reverse of invitations or as a separate enclosure. You can use Save the Dates sent out a few weeks ahead of the invitations to add items such as gift registry details (some consider this impolite, but times are changing) directions to the venue, hotel accommodation info for guests travelling, transport details, menu etc.
Alternatively these details can be listed on a wedding website , Facebook page. You can add the web address for the webpage to your invitation – descretley at the bottom or on the reverse.
Plus 1’s and children – I have separate articles for dealing with these tricky subjects . Traditionally it would be impolite to add rules to the invitation or save the dates re these, and simply ensure all invitations are addressed to each guest. However, it is more often the case now that reference is made to these things via an additional details card , on the website via a polite one-liner or with a sensitive poem.
Is the design of the wedding invitation important?
When to send the wedding invitations out?
What should the RSVP deadline date be?
Formal Wedding Invitation Wording Etiquette
- Wedding guests invited to the ceremony are traditionally invited to the reception.
- All words should be written out in full, including names, dates and times. Words as oppose to numbers, no abbreviations.
- Religious Invitations – Host Names followed by: ‘request the honor of your presence‘.
- Non-religious ceremony can read “request the pleasure of your company“
- If the bride’s family are hosting the wedding, her parent’s names go first followed by the bride and grooms, with the groom’s parents names below their sons name (son of etc.) The reverse if the wedding is hosted by the grooms family. When hosted by the bride and groom and their parents add the Bride’s name first, then the Groom’s name and ‘together with their families’ or ‘together with their parents’.
- Addressing envelopes write out all guest names in full adults and children. Enclose RSVP cards with stamped pre- addressed envelopes (unless it’s an rsvp postcard)
Informal Wedding wording
There are no wording rules other than to ensure the required information as noted at the start is present. You can have expressions such as:
- ‘Bride and Grooms first names are Getting Hitched / Tying the knot
Balance of Both – The contemporary wedding invitations I design have a balance of formal and informal wording based on the guidelines above. If you like the style of my designs but would like the wording altered on the store copy, drop me a line as I can make those changes for you (no charge).